We are often in situations that need polite, ice-breaker conversations, which we popularly call “Small talk”. It is building a bridge between you and the other person- it’s about starting to talk. Some common topics may be books, weather, travel, food, sports and hobbies.
Small Talk is now becoming an inescapable skill. The other day, I saw a seminar being conducted and wondered if this was such an intriguing topic for people. Moreover, some great books have been published- The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine is one of the famous work.
But really, not everyone is trained in the art of small talk.
Interestingly, I read a study that stated, “People benefit from deep and meaningful conversations that help us forge connections with one another, but we often stick to small talk with strangers because we underestimate how much others are interested in our lives and wrongly believe that deeper conversations will be more awkward and less enjoyable than they actually are.”
As per this research, instead of asking questions like, “What was the last TV show you watched?”, or, “What do you think about the weather today?”, we should replace them with deeper questions like, “Can you describe a time you cried in front of another person?” or “If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future or anything else, what would you want to know?”😳
Well, I do not entirely agree.
The above questions might be a good ice breaker in corporate events; but imagining myself at a party, I would much rather prefer asking about a favourite show, than asking a stranger about what was the first time they cried 😂; and if people around asked me about it, I would prefer to taking my bag and fleeing. 😬
What do you guys prefer, small talk or deep conversations? Your thoughts?